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In response, he started talking, but somehow didn’t really say anything, and I got the feeling he was probably seeing someone else. Everything was still so new between us, so I let the subject drop. I’m afraid to bring this up with him because the conversation didn’t go well the last time; he’s obviously not ready to be exclusive with me. My friend, you are an unwitting victim of the new culture that I call “the Tinder Revolution.” Although it’s always been possible to see more than one person at a time, technology – and Tinder, where one swipes right or left to meet or reject another – is just one app of many that has made it much easier for us to encounter, get-to-know, and “communicate” with multiple people simultaneously.But here’s the thing: We have so much fun together. My best friend tells me to relax – this is just how dating is. I’m going nuts thinking about him dating other girls. However, despite the apparent benefits, the Tinder Revolution often leaves us feeling less self-confident, confused, frustrated, and empty. Everybody wants to feel special and to be treated with love and respect.But you really like him and don’t want to leave him because you think maybe tomorrow he will tell you that he wants to date you exclusively.So you hang in there with anxiety and hope while another month goes by.The logic behind multi-dating isn’t rooted so much in the need to distract oneself with a bunch of dudes following a breakup (although it totally can be) as it is in what men have long called "playing the field.” And, it's certainly not a new concept.
Not one minute of those two months was focused exclusively on you, a prerequisite to really evaluating taking a relationship to the next step.
She says it’s 100% normal for us to both date multiple people at once until we decide together to make the relationship exclusive. Agreeing to date someone while he or she dates other people signals that it is somehow acceptable not to respect or value you.
At a minimum, it is a waste of your time, as more likely than not, non-exclusive relationships peter out. It is rude and disrespectful to be subject to such behavior. Dating someone while they’re dating other people is the same thing.
In the future, from the first date, let the guy know what you want and need: exclusivity. Even if you’ve missed your opportunity to set your boundaries on the first date, do it now.
Tell him you won’t date him while he’s seeing other women. He might say, “I can’t commit right now.” You’re not asking him to.
If we don’t work out and wind up going our separate ways, at least I’ll know I gave us a fair shot. I expect you to treat me with the same courtesy.” And if he refuses, consider yourself lucky that you’re finding this out now, before throwing away months when you could be dating more effectively. You’d be surprised how much a statement like that will impress and be endearing to quality guys. Sometimes guys need to tell women this as well.) There’s no bigger turn-off than a woman without self-confidence.